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Best places for interracial dating in atlanta Do You Agree With Jill Scott’s Views on Interracial Dating?

In an interview from a few years ago, the R&B singer-songwriter Jill Scott shares her thoughts about seeing a “successful Black man with a white woman.”

Video by CNN.

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  1. Sundiata Keita says:

    MOST black women are materialistic first of all. the mothers tell the girls to find a man with a good job and good shoes, but then tell the boys to respect all women regardless. its backwards from the jump.
    then they join in white feminist trying to lock bruthas up for street harassment. smmfh.
    truth is, if you broke or struggling, you can always get a white girl or a latina, but most black women aint gone F with you until you got some shine. until you did all the hard work, then they come in like the clean up woman.

  2. I have to disagree with you completely. Most black women stay with their man while he is struggling. Once he finds success he discards her for the white or Latina woman.

  3. @Sundiata Keita all women want a man w a good job who could be a good provider for a family, it has nothing to do w race.

  4. @Sundiata Keita all women want a man w a good job who could be a good provider for a family, it has nothing to do w race. You have your info totally distorted…

  5. Ivory M Jones says:

    this interview is so old. she is not even that size anymore and she has since spoken out against this stance. how shameful that ya'll are content to promote outdated material as if it is new

  6. I agree with anything Miss Jill Scott says.

  7. I agree with anything Miss Jill Scott says.

  8. ANNNNDDDD -White women are not gold diggers – they only want the richest wealthiest black men – and they get them !!!!!

  9. says:

    I love my black queen, when times get hard she been on my side. I will never give her up for any one

  10. says:

    yea its pretty old, I'm sure she dont want this issue brought up again, luckily this website have no problem using old material lol

  11. Garrett King says:

    Love your name!

  12. says:

    First of all, when Jill Scott talked about culture, being extracted form Africa, our culture became their culture (meaning European). Growing up on the east-side of Springfield, Ohio, I became to recognize the difference of my culture against the rest of the city's. Let me explain, on the East-End of Springfield, we were about 15 to 20 families of Blacks, or shall I say Coloreds with light, bright, to damn near white parents. We were called Uncle Tom's or yellow niggers by people on the other sides of town. Until high school, our friends were our environment, White, Black or whatever. My grandmother was White with the label (Mulatto) next to her name. Her father was White, German, I think and her mother was Black, White, Indian with (Mulatto) beside her name. The only way you could tell their ethnicity was that they told you. My grandmother is a product of Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings. I was raised knowing that we, on the East-End, were different. When I joined the military in '74, on the race block, I placed "Other" in the block because I couldn't put East-End of Springfield, Ohio in it…..

  13. DC Price says:

    Okay, maybe I blinked….Where did she say anything about her feeling on seeing a successful black man and a white woman? What ratchet…sensational headlines, that ratchet…
    As far as Jill's statement is concerned…it is an old interview. I'd be interested to see if her thoughts have changed in the last 4 years. I agree that when in Europe, I never feel the same racism as I do here in America. It's so thick you can cut it with a knife.

  14. DC Price says:

    Okay, maybe I blinked….Where did she say anything about her feeling on seeing a successful black man and a white woman? What ratchet…sensational headlines, that ratchet…
    As far as Jill's statement is concerned…it is an old interview. I'd be interested to see if her thoughts have changed in the last 4 years. I agree that when in Europe, I never feel the same racism as I do here in America. It's so thick you can cut it with a knife.

  15. Farntella Graham says:

    mind games and reverse psychology is what white people are "masters" of. their latest twist is to call you racist when you speak out against them, they do the same thing when you speak out against zionist. they call you anti-semetic, which is far from the truth. don't let them distract you from what you have to say about them and how you feel about them as so-called fellow human beings.

  16. Farntella Graham says:

    mind games and reverse psychology is what white people are "masters" of. their latest twist is to call you racist when you speak out against them, they do the same thing when you speak out against zionist. they call you anti-semetic, which is far from the truth. don't let them distract you from what you have to say about them and how you feel about them as so-called fellow human beings.

  17. Kellz Lab says:

    I don't think some of you watched the video. Everyone is skating over the issue of the silent pain black women carry and how the effects of racism in America has got us jacked up. How we need to have an open dialogue between black men and women so the healing can begin.

    It never ceases to amaze me to see how Black men immediately go on the defense, as far as publicly smearing Black women as a whole and never attempting to understand us. How are we going to get past that if you fellas aren't even trying to see or hear us?

  18. Robin Robii Elmore says:

    Sundiata Keita you say MOST Black women because of course you know MOST Black women right?

  19. Ronald Gray says:

    Blasphemy Gluttony truth is most black men who struggle to achieve his most hardest struggle is with black women!! and i really hate to say this! I WILL NEVER SELL-OUT TO a white woman!! but most of my life's problems to date has been black women! very sad indeed! i just saw on facebook a black Mother call her son a m-f bitch! this will really help this young mans ego..right? we are our problem why do you think gay numbers among our young men are increasing! black women are raising them to be bitches!!

  20. Robin Robii Elmore says:

    Not true Ronald, the reason for the increase in gay Black males has nothing to do with their mothers, it's because they love men!

  21. says:

    Sorry folks, she dosen't know what she is talking about. What she says, makes nooooo sense. What does she means when she said she dosen't feel that way when she is in those European countries. She need to learn a little white history, and she will find all those countries played mayor roles in the slave trade. Major slave ports, London, Glasgow, Liverpool, and Bristol, all European. I need to say to my sister, you have to learn your black history before you go out there, saying things that totally does not make sense. The whites in Europe are just as or more racist in Europe, or anywhere they may be. Maybe they don't show their racism when she is entertaining them, remember they loved to see the slaves sing and dance, come next day, they were back in the field. What is her point when she says, she does not have a problem with a successful black man with a white female. Well it hurts me, because I know what the black woman goes through and have gone through, and to see the weak black men become successfull becoming millionaires, and they go off and marry a white female. I just read a black who marrys a white, obviously, hate themselves, considering the suffering whites have caused black people, especially the black man. Nothing but a bunch of black folk, who know nothing about their history. To abandon the black female like the black man has, there will be a day of reckoning the black man will have to answer too, why he abandoned his suffering black female? And now we have black females supporting these Cowards.

  22. says:

    Debra Allen Driskell Well that is what we call gold diggers.

  23. says:

    This is one of the topics that prompted me to write . The Black family crisis is not just about baby mama drama and trifling fathers. It's about our perception of relationships and family, collective goals and equipping ourselves for success on a larger scale through creation of family ties, intact families with a mother and father married and working collectively to build wealth, stability, tradition and achieve a degree of success.
    @joywsimone #relationships #theweddingplanbook

  24. Harvie Harv says:

    i think everyone here is speaking different parts of the same truth as far as blk men and women in the struggle and hardship-etc. Interracial dating is perfectly fine when you do it for the right reasons. don't do it to get back at black men or because you had one black woman with a salty attitude in your life. Let it be a natural connection. Racism is not as bad as the oppression black people put ourselves through.

    I will blame the black gay epidemic on the lack of Male presence, the media, and people giving homosexuality in the black community a pass (i.e: The "as long as they aren't bothering me I don't care mentality)<–thats dumb.

    These problems were not caused by white folks. They aren't being driven by racism and no one is suffering from it but black folks. Racism is nothing compared to what we are doing to ourselves so before interracial..anything comes into play black people need to become Self-less and stop being so selfish. Stop pointing and start changing.

    Its not about black men understanding black women. The black woman's struggle is one she has internally not externally. Black men went through everything first, and then had to go through it AGAIN as we watched our wives/women go through it..and once more with our women as WE watched the children go through it…. They were there with you too. White women took it upon themselves to liberate from their husbands..and black women took that whole women's liberation movement and made it their own for no apparent reason. So now we have friction amongst the black men and women for what…..???

    THATS why it hurts so much when some of us see us dating outside the race. Because we know what we used to mean to one another. But instead of admitting something painful we'd much rather fight amongst ourselves..thus proving to the world we really are that term some of us call ourselves out of "endearment."…… smh we've went so far away.

  25. says:

    Nik Grant Just b/c a man have a good job and is a good provider, does that make him good for you?? Does that even make him good?? Some women accept ass whippings b/c of your view.. Good job, good provider= ass whippings and abuse tolerated..

  26. Jay AkinsAvery says:

    On what planet do you thing white and other race of women are not after men for money, please stop making one sided comments that always make the Black woman look negative!!!

  27. Jay AkinsAvery says:

    What is ridiculous is little Black Girls always seeing men who have a prosperous education and or career, i.e, most of the NBA, and other black sports figures, stars, etc. etc., once they get an extra nickel, the only thing they want is a white, mixed race or anything other than a Black women in their life. Take a poll of the rate black men in the NBA marry white women as opposed to the white men in the NBA who marry black women????? Sundiate Keita, when you keeping spouting negative things about Black women in general, Sundiata Keita, do you realize your are talking about your mother, your sister and your daughters? It amazes me the opportunity that Black Men so often and so easily give white women the opportunity to experience the wealth, career, etc., etc. whether he comes from the hood or whether he lives in Hollywood. I am not a person who replaces vulgar wording to get acorss a point, but I do wish Jill Scott would STF up. It is amazing when people who become so called "famous" or "stars" and they suddenly have an extra dime, if is interesting how they can no longer see racism!!!

  28. Jay AkinsAvery says:

    Blasphemy Gluttony Thank you, absolutely most black women stay with their men whether he has a dime of not!!! Black women are programmed to give, give and give. Sudiata Kieta's analogy of Black women is akin to being mistreated and brutalized in slavery by white slave owners who now manipulate words and history by subliminally reverse their behavior and then call black people savages, when we know who the real savages are!!!

  29. Jay AkinsAvery says:

    Thank you…well said!!!

  30. says:

    As the numbers of marrying age Black men continues to dwindle based
    on the genocide that they can't control, to many others, in pursuit of white
    women, while forsaking our own women, are contributing to our own
    demise, confusing sex with love, commitment and family.

    Add this to the fact that Black people spend 98% of our $1 tril
    buying power with everyone else and only $2 with Black own biz and
    we see how deep this self hatred has become. To home you give your
    money, you give your power.

  31. says:

    That is true, and I read your chapter on marriage last night. However, how can Black people in America reinvent marriage in which we never had a social theory and tradition of practice in the first place. Secondly, more Blacks would be married if it was not for a system that constantly attacks the Black family unit. Systems and institutions sustains marriage, not just faith. So until power structure changes we are going to have this problem. Now it is also a greater American issue as well. I love the book even though I rarely read from a woman point of view of fiction. Joy Simone

  32. says:

    Jay AkinsAvery Yes Thank you also.

  33. says:

    Nothing really has to do with race but more on an individual person , we as people are so simple minded , we put everyone in the same box , Emotion is what makes people move nothing more. The love that god instilled in us has nothing to do with race. So if u believe in god how can u think any other way .

  34. says:

    Nothing really has to do with race but more on an individual person , we as people are so simple minded , we put everyone in the same box , Emotion is what makes people move nothing more. The love that god instilled in us has nothing to do with race. So if u believe in god how can u think any other way .

  35. Gina Gi-gi Brewster says:

    Debra Allen Driskell Contradiction!!!

  36. says:

    Nope most black men are just like you, nasty ignorant and rude…you are not worth the time or trouble. thank goodness I had sense enough to stop dealing with you, glad that more black women are waking up and doing the same.

  37. says:

    Blasphemy Gluttony …which is why more of us are not dealing with them…black women are better off not dealing with black men. The only think a black man will do for a black woman is break her heart, strip her of everything, infect her
    with diseases and bounce….why invest in such horrid men?

  38. says:

    …by staying the hell away from them and moving on and not looking back, that's how!

  39. says:

    Hopefully she woke up and realize that black men are not worth the trauma in which they bring to a black woman's life and moved on.

  40. Kellz Lab says:

    I know and understand the pain, Carly – but I can't surrender to that solution. I know where you're coming from, though. It's tiring and hurts the spirit.

  41. says:

    Carly Lee i agree with you, trying to find some idealistic perfect situation with a brother rather than finding someone who love you is a waste of time and energy .
    brothers are going to mess with who ever they like and thats it point blank

  42. Rhonda Johnson says:

    Brotha it is sad that you view us in this manner. And to add sting to the wound you put other races above your own. This is simply not true. The average black woman is struggling with her man if she can find a black man. The average white woman will not give a brotha the time of day without money unless she is broke down and her own dont want her. When will we stop putting others on

  43. Rhonda Johnson says:

    Exactly sis…..brothers need to stop putting others before their own. You don't hear white or Hispanic men criticize and choose others over their own. We are their Mothers, Aunts, Sisters and children Mothers. What does that say about our men when they can't publicly acknowledge us and show love. It is a sickness

  44. Rhonda Johnson says:

    Exactly sis…..brothers need to stop putting others before their own. You don't hear white or Hispanic men criticize and choose others over their own. We are their Mothers, Aunts, Sisters and children Mothers. What does that say about our men when they can't publicly acknowledge us and show love. It is a sickness

  45. says:

    Ksliz Lab I agree. If the rich black man is all that, and he is so smart and brilliant, why is it he cannot get with his black woman, and try to work out whatever problems that may be there? Guess what, that never happens, because by the time the dummy gets rich, the white female, already got him under her control. Something else about these black males, they are not just lovers of white females, they are some of the biggest toms on the planet, because they are giving thanks to the klan and other white males, because they allow him to have their woman, otherwise, he is subject to get stopped anytime, and we will have strange fruit hanging from the tree. They may be stupid, but they are not that stupid to realize he is in a strange situation, he knows what happened to black men if they even looked a white women. And now they think they are all that walking around with a white woman on his arm, he is subject to the same thing that use to happen to black men, whites males still have that attitude. Donald Sterling proves my point.

  46. Sundiata Keita says:

    i stand by my statement. black women are taught to be materialistic from childhood. and yall bruthas who have went thru the struggle before, who havent been neutered by black women, yall know that im right. its hard to get a black woman when youre trying to be somebody.
    and dont put words in my mouth. i never said white and latina women arent gold diggers, i said they are more apt to be with you during the struggle.

  47. Lakisha Robison says:

    Then y is it that so many black women are struggling raising these black children by these broke black bums? It's because they fucked with them from day one when they ain't have ish and them same broke ass bums hot a good job or came up on something better and when they Fay 1 ask for some help with THEIR child then they a gold digger a black man can always come up on a good black woman it's because of the previous ones that dog them they act funny with the rest because they don't wanna go through the same bs not because they looking for money a lot of them are looking for love in all the wrong places and too many fatherless blk men don't know how to treat a woman or respect one so they dog them out thus the cycle continues on BOTH sides

  48. Sundiata Keita says:

    Blasphemy Gluttony you 12 years old, what the hell do you know about relationships? hahaha

  49. Sundiata Keita says:

    one last clarification. when i say black women, i mean black american, westernized women. now that we clear, im out. i wont be moved off my stance and i definitely wont be reading no more comments.

  50. Lakisha Robison says:

    Wow as black people our FIRST images and role models are our mothers and fathers I feel for the kind of black woman that raised to she must have had man after man looking for the ones with the money for you to have such a nasty outlook on our women you must have had a deadbeat poor kid smh I want my son to always remember the kind of mother he was born to a strong and natural black woman that loves him to no limits they kind of love that a black woman is capable of even if it takes him a few years to find her I want my black son to know what a real black woman is always

  51. says:

    Carly Lee white men are just as bad as black men. race has nothing to do with it. but hey , love who you love. i know a lot of married white men who cheat and are drunks and black men who are the same. black men are guilty untill proven inocent while for white men it's the other way around.

  52. says:

    a bad choise of a man is just that no matter the race.

  53. Ayoluwa Holloway says:

    To Sundiata Keita, from this post it is once again hurtful to hear a black male just stereotype and lambast "most Black women as materialistic" and/or negatively. Unless, you have really been with or know the true hearts and minds of Black women of whom you (I would venture by the name and picture) and I share the same genetic makeup as, I would like to really caution you to: 1) Be quicker to (try) to have Love and Understanding for those of Our/My Race (I am Black Person who is also proud to be a part of the Black Group personally), 2) Be careful to be just as judgemental and condescending and filled with Self-Hatred as many of Our People today, and 3) I would like to recommend to you and all Black People to watch and purchase a powerful the historical documentaries movies – HIDDEN COLORS #1, #2 and #3 and you and we ALL will UNDERSTAND and KNOW the REAL TRUTH OF OURSELVES, OUR HISTORY, RACISM and how it is all intertwined and causes us to feel so adverse and negatively about and toward each other. If you and many others, would do this first with open ears, eyes, and minds first, then consider it and then reply, I really believe that you and many of us would CHANGE on so many levels for the better than before. Peace to you brother, I do not slander nor defame you and only wish you and Our People the best and REAL LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER!!!

  54. ATo TheBee says:

    Would I be correct in saying that MOST black men populate the jails, are under-achievers, and do not provide for the children they helped to bring in this world? When black women and black men stop looking at one another as the enemy and embrace and love our blackness, then and only then can we hope to prosper as a people united.

  55. says:

    if it's love and true love then so be it.. however, most white women want a black man as their trophy to piss daddy or mommy off, to have a biracial kid, or a kid with "good hair".. all of which is bs.. and black men choose white woman because they are scared of black women expressing themselves then say we have "attitude problems".. It wasn't a problem when your mothers, sisters, grandmother or ancestor did this, why are you too weak to handle It now.. I grew up in the military, and my whole school was filled with either biracial kids or interracial couples.. all of them stating the same ignorant stuff.. if it is true love then so be it. but don't show your cowardness at the first disagreement you have with a black woman and say she has an attitude..
    I was watching this show once on bet why black men date white woman. this man said that if he took his white girl friend car and didn't come to pick her up several hours after he told her he would, she would think something was wrong and would be more concerned with him and his well being, oppose to a black girl would give him attitude.. my thing is why would you take anyones car and not check in and not expect and tongue lashing for it anyways.. its not attitude, its about giving respect. and if any woman didn't speak up, that shows how weak they are, and perhaps that all you handle as a weak man

  56. Dana Gates says:

    Sundiata Keita, I would ask like to ask you how many animals in the wild choose a weak or slow mate? I surely don't believe that white people are teaching their daughters to pick a person that can not at least provide for them and a family. however black women get stigmatized as gold diggers for wanting the same equality that animals get…. and that is someone that can protect them and provide love and security. do you have any children are you teaching your son to Be a stand-up Man and provide for his family or are you telling your daughter that settle for love and struggle? Just curious.

  57. Gherkin Rose says:

    What is wrong with zionists?

  58. Gherkin Rose says:

    I think that interracial relationships are fine. There is beauty in African culture, european culture, Indian culture, asian culture, etc. I dont see the issue if a white man sees the strength and beauty in a black woman and vice versa. People are people. Your heart is what defines you, not your color/environment/culture.

  59. Cherrice Arnold says:

    Sundiata Keita… I dont know what kind of women you have been dealing with… We are not taught materialism we are taught not to waste our time with a SORRY ASS man… Most black women are that ride or die with a man that wants to get somewhere and be someone… So if you're a sorry man you can't be mad if black women leave you alone… Hell the white women can have you lol I'm not saying we are all like that but the majority of us we raised in a household where the women held their men down so that would be what we emulate…. And BTW I'm black woman and have been with my husband for 20+ yrs and I was with him when we had NOTHING which was a pretty long time and I NEVER walked out on him…And I know a few white girls that probably dont want to be with a man who doesnt have his shit together… Most adult women want security no matter our color… Plus I doubt think you know MOST black women so you shouldn't judge the ones you've never had the privilege of meeting.

  60. Gherkin Rose says:

    Blasphemy Gluttony It's not the race of a person, its the heart. Women (ALL women) want a man who will love them, provide for them and thier children, and protect them. Men want a woman who will respect them, build them up (ie…believe in them), and encourage them. If a black man finds a white/latina/indian/purple polka dot woman that respects him and believes in him, he is going to love her. And there is nothing wrong with that…..A recomendation for everyone on here….My fave movie of all time deals with this very issue.

  61. Tanya Doomey Ellis says:

    Sundiata Keita You not a man. You are a boy. You were not raised by a black man because you sound like a whining female. Don't blame us because you haven't figured out what manhood is all about. Stand your ground and be stronger . You made up in your mind a long time ago that you hated being black you hate your black mother because your daddy left. When at the end of the day a black women will stand by your side till the end. But you only want to degrade us 'Suck my dick or imma get a white girl." 'let me put it in your butt or Imma get a mexican so my baby won't look like me because I hate how I look and want a baby with curly hair. Some
    one told you years ago that you were black and ugly and the awful thing is you believed them

  62. says:

    God damn ok so we get the negatives about the brothers and its a waste of time going back and forth about what we do and don't do with any of you ladies because you wont listen anyway………..but please riddle me this and no deflection with but this person does this and that.
    ARE BLACK WOMEN PERFECT? AND DO YOU ALL HAVE ANY FLAWS? be honest and no deflection COULD THERE BE ANY REASON OTHER THAN A GUY JUST BEING A BUM AS YOU SAY JUST WALKING AWAY FROM YOU?

  63. says:

    i agree black women are fonominal

  64. Oneday Onedaymetwo says:

    A girl is materialistic no matter what walk of life she comes from. A woman want her bills paid no matter what walk of life she comes from.. A man does not consider himself a man unless he can provided and give her these things, no matter what walk of life he comes from, A immature boy/child that's still reaching,
    trying to find him self runs from those type of responsibilities no matter what walk of life he comes from

  65. says:

    If I haven't seen a movie or read a book that is 15 years old it doesn't mean it has no meaning. Old views and history shape people if you knew what your Aunt Hattie Mae been thru in her life you can better understand why she act and how she raised her churn that way. Doesn't make it right but it is important and better to know than not.

  66. Theodore Robert Shadley says:

    I like Ms Scott's music. I would hope that she would stay in her lane an speak about things she has first hand knowledge about. Race is not one on them. I will end my saying this, the heart wants what the heart wants. Her ideal is something that want pass down from slavery time.

  67. Theodore Robert Shadley says:

    I like Ms Scott's music. I would hope that she would stay in her lane an speak about things she has first hand knowledge about. Race is not one on them. I will end my saying this, the heart wants what the heart wants. Her ideal is something that want pass down from slavery time.

  68. says:

    looking at all of these comments, now I know why we are in trouble. The reality is, black men and women are at the bottom of the "interracial" sexual market, what that means is that we are all we got. Don't let these black actors, athletes and other luminaries fool you, when looking at all the "interracial"dating studies among ordinary people, black folks are the least desired. Many of you think the grass is greener, and that is not true. This is especially true when other "races" think we should be lucky that they chose us.

  69. Paula Daughterofthunder Weber Lmt says:

    Agape love knows NO color. Eros love is full of JUDGMENT!!!

  70. Mexicana Advode says:

    you are clearly a dumb dumb so you're not responsible for the utter rubbish you speak. in case you live in a cave or under a rock, every race of women are materialistic and just what mother in her right mind would tell her daughter to date a man without a job, even in the eastern part of the world, for a man to marry a woman he has to be financially or materially stable. a 'clean shoe' is a metaphor use to state that a man has patience and discipline. the man takes time to clean the shoe he is wearing means he will take time to adorn his woman and also treat her well, so hop over into 2014 when you are ready to be civilized and learn something.

  71. Farntella Graham says:

    I did not like Jill's ode to europe. remember, they are the ones who started all the problems humanity is faced with today.

  72. says:

    Latif Tarik I think the question is always what are we going to do and what do any people do faced with challenges or with the existing roadblocks that have somewhat resulted in the current state of affairs. I am discussing moving away from a blame game and toward a new way of approaching the issues. Some of the solutions involve changing mindsets by setting new norms as well as providing tools to heal and move forward where that is needed.

  73. says:

    Joy Simone I agree, but we have to face a reality, until we can build institutions that can move us forward it will always be marginal. That is the problem. White power structures are powerful and we have to destroy it before it destroys us. The reason being is the same institution are at work and it is dominating the situation. That is real for me, but if someone show me something different than I will take that into consideration. There is no blame game when you are being destroyed by a very crafty racist system we must face head on. If not, all Black existence will be marginal as a community. Its really not a Black thing it is a human right to be free from all forms of oppression and I do not see that happening in the Black community as a whole. We can help ourselves, but we need from society to help us too by stop creating conditions in which Black people have to react to harsh treatment throughout our lives. Relationships between Black men and women suffer the most due to the power structure. Economical worth should not have to dictate how people feel about each other, but it does. Love is secondary.

  74. says:

    Don't pay these women no mind. If it were not for Black Men she would still have chains around her neck and sleeping under the Earth. Black Men (not Women), gave their lives in battle to get the chains/manacles removed from her dumb self. Black Men dug up the Earth, cut down the trees and laid the foundation for every city on this entire continent called America and then rolled up his sleaves and built it for less money all the while being mistreated in the process. WE OWE BLACK FEMALES NOTHING! Last but not least. When has she not had masters babies? What period in the USA has she not laid with White Men, Women and their Beasts?

  75. says:

    Latif Tarik but that is the history of marriage in the world. The concept of marrying for love is a new concept, historically speaking. Not saying that people did not marry people they loved, but it's mainly been an economic structure to benefit families, as well as to (before women's lib) ensure that women were supported financially when the general rights to employment, wages, etc. were not in our favor. That is another issue of course. Again, I am not about talking about what "the man" is doing or has done. There is no victory in that. In my opinion. I'm about solutions. And this is in all facets of my life. I am not bitter about relationships, and that is not why I bring up my thoughts about family and black male/female relationships. We live in a competitive world that is for the strongest. Collectively, we can at least get this discussion on the table to better equip ourselves to move in the right direction. Throughout history, in the most dire of times for us as a people and a nation, there have been outliers. We need more outliers. What do we need to do to move beyond the stereotypes and statistics. Society as a whole has never shown itself to fight for an individual group. And that is being realistic.

  76. says:

    Lakisha Robison You joking right? What are Black Women strong at? Please… Strong at having sex with every other man but your own. I can almost guarantee. If DNA testing was done in every Black household, three out of five would belong to another Man. Black guys have no idea how vicious and cruel Black females are. It's a shame most of them don't even know how to defend themselves against you. Black Men, she don't love you, never has since we were brought here in chains. She has always worked as an agent for White people. That has not changed and probably never will. A quote from a buddy of mine sums it up very well. "This is not our World, this is not our Time and these are not our Women." By: Wonder Mike

  77. Mexicana Advode says:

    Bomani Ajamu black women owe black men absolutely nothing but the black seem to owe child support thats why most of your asses have a criminal record for rape and child support because you cant keep it in your pants yet always want to blame women for your short comings and mistakes. grow up and if the black women is sleeping with men from other race maybe its a default you have with yourself,see women having sex is premeditated, talk to your mother about what she should have done and stop wanting a woman to fill your mother's role plus give you sex at the same time. what do you have to offer society other than spreading aids, there is an increase in hiv amongst black men yet a decrease in black women which means you're either sneaking to the OC or you're gay. clean out your demons before exorcising other people and stop being a misogynist, its getting old and should be redundant.

  78. says:

    Mexicana Advode Blah, Blah, Blah… Guys, just ask them one question? What have Black women done? I like to give credit where it's due. She hasn't done any thing! The Men have fought, died and been mistreated in every war this country has ever had. She would be sleeping under the Earth in perpetual fear if it were not for us. Black Men you are the foundation of life. Nevermind what these females say. Just do you! She love Jesus (White Men) so much, let her be with him. Oh I forgot, she's just a cum bucket for him.

  79. says:

    I tell you what. Here's how we settle the problem between Black Males and Females. Let them get ten of there best Warriors. We will gather ten of our best. Put them all in a cage and who ever is left standing is in charge for one calendar year. We can do this every year if she likes. If they can take us, I would have no problem submitting to her authority. In the end, it comes down to power.

  80. Tanya Doomey Ellis says:

    Bomani Ajamu You are not and American Black Male . Your hate is different. Like that of a foreign male. And we all know how they treat women where you are from.What have women done?? A women gave birth to you. I will not go back and forth with you. You have no compromise. Hate, kill, and destroy is what your about. You are hiding your face. You work for the devil.

  81. says:

    Tanya Doomey Ellis Life come from the MAN honey. The female is simply it's host. Is that all you got?

  82. Robby Breadner says:

    there's a difference between being materialistic and settling down with a partner who is reliable and financially stable. you don't have to be rich to be financially responsible.

  83. says:

    The black women are the most beautiful women in the world, and at the same time, black women are the most back stabbing women in the world. Both are true.

    I only date black women, but get no respect from a black women are abused because of black women, married to a black women who loves the club more then she can ever love you and most of all, and this is so true. A black women belongs to the street she can never be just your women because when times get hard she follows the money.

  84. says:

    When I was at University, other women said I was amazing, one day when I walk up to a this over the top fine sister and talked to her about my self and what I hoped to do, she told me call her when I did it.

    I graduated from University

  85. says:

    Blasphemy Gluttony- When I was at University, other women thought I was amazing, one day when I walk up to a this over the top fine sister and talked to her about my self and what I hoped to do, she told me call her when I did it.

    I graduated from University

  86. says:

    I understand you,

    Black women for the most part never got to have the good provider, black women had to hold the house down when working for other people cleaning other peoples homes and watching other peoples kids, Black women Had to have children ripped from their arms, but remember that’s because black men could not get a job to be a provider, he was swinging from a tree, he had to watch other men take his women and do what ever they wanted with her and now if my money not right I’m not right, right?

    I want my women to have the world, but she wants the world now, and I can’t do it.

  87. says:

    That’s because when I was trying to get to the NBA, I could not get a date, like me when I’m trying to get on.

  88. says:

    I would to debate,,,,but I have no grounds….truth, mine met me with nothing 41 years ago! Fyi..black men have only had choices since 2nd emancipation in late 60's

  89. says:

    Listen to what she said again please; she said black women are being left alone. And yes it is a problem. During slavery and to present… black women not only had to breast kid their own child but at times the child of their masters. While the wives were keeping their figures up and looking uppity, the black women were in the kitchen burning. The first thing the black man would do when he get his freedom papers is go get him a woman of a lighter hue only because he couldn’t get a white. In his head it showed prestige. That’s what working in master’s how taught him and even when he got his freedom papers he was still mentally enslaved. Now I’m all for love and I don’t care who people choose to love but I do wish they would just take care of the kids they’re leaving behind and the new ones.

  90. says:

    can any woman here honestly accept her role/position in the institution of marriage ? if you honestly can then that's the beginning of the healing process however ,there's the fear that always linger in the minds of women in general that leads to their paranoia about irresponsible men, and this is where the problem stems. but can we again deny that our women to be blame for the man she raised ? partially , hence with the absence of the male adds to the degradation and break down of the family structure, nevertheless it takes 2 to tarry and it makes no sense trying to deny the fact that you need the man around. it will just take a little more effort in making the surrounding suitable to keep the dog from straying ,and that doesn't mean acting like a second mother nagging ,scolding ,ridiculing and belittling the man . the way that I see it is that, you could've married an executive of a company today and few years down he becomes a victim of the pink slip and may never recover from his ordeal, then the question arrives i.e. what role will you play or is it you're going to cut and run now that he's no longer able to afford the lavish lifestyle you once enjoyed? that alone would certainly determine who you really are.

  91. says:

    Maybe thats what happen in your household, speak for yourself. and most women of all race are materialist not jus women of color.

  92. says:

    Preharps she meant that she treated differently in those country, or people are more open minded civilized to women of color. remember brazil and us was the last to countries to abolished slavery so obviously adapting to dark skin people was and still is a challenge for some.

  93. says:

    Bomani Ajamu You are not speaking truth. You talk all this untruths/nonsense/spinning. You really cannot blame the black women for nothing that happened during slavery, or after. Yes, I believe the black man could have or should have stood up, and protected us, and protect us. You want to bring up some bad s…, what about the times, the slave holder would come to the black man's shack, he is sitting on the porch, the criminal by pass the black man, goes into his domain/shack, and rape his wife/woman, while he sit on the porch and listen, and he was to scared or felt to weak to come into the house and take the beast out, but no he allowed his wife to be raped while he sit and listen. This is just one incidence of crimes commited against the black queen, and the black man failed to step up. I don't care if he was held, it is no way in hell that should have went down, my life would have been on the line, when he stepped foot in my house to rape my wife. So please don't start no s…, and it won't be none. We were all in a bad, bad, situation, so the least we can't or should do, is try to place blame on who didn't do what. I believe what happened, had the black man fought back, a lot of that s… would not have happened to the black woman, even today, the black woman so many have been abandoned.

  94. says:

    Gherkin Rose Nothing, if the land does not belong to someone else, or the land is not taken to create a homeland for someone.

  95. says:

    Harvey Harv When I got to the the part of your post, when you said, "Racism is nothing compared to what we are doing to ourselves". I stopped reading your post any further. Why would you say that? We/you are living under white supremacy, all over the world, and you make a statement like that. Everything we do, and all our failures, white supremacy, is responsible, white supremacy controls your children schools, they dictates what they learn, your church, their bible rules, the criminal justice system, the reason why so many black men are in prison, the government. What so may blacks fail to realize, just because the system did not pull the trigger, or sold the drugs, or rob someone, but the system created the the reason, why our black boys, and black men commit these crimes. If you do not understane white supremacy, and how it works, you will forever live in a state of confusion, and blame yourself, and your people for our problems. That is not to say we should not work around these problems, but here again, if we understood what was happening, we could work under the radar of white supremacy, in fact it is a must we stop this foolishness, it is easy said then done, we will get there one day, if we are going to survive. Do I need to go further?

  96. says:

    Gherkin Rose How come we don't see as many black women with white men? That alone will make you say hummmm. What you are saying may sounld nice to you, but it is not real. The races should not mix, it destroyes and weaken gentics, the off springs. You may say oh they are beautiful, but when you weaken the DNA/genetics, their longiity is shorten. Only pure Afurakans will last as long as the planet, no body else. Genetics tells us that, as we already have been on the planet millions, and millions of years, nobody else, the rest are Johnny come latelys. Mixing is not worth it. We were put on the riches planet, we don't control much right now, but we will get our s… back, our genetics dictates that we will.

  97. says:

    Christopher Ryan, of all the other christian groups, blacks are the only ones who say the things you are saying. Most groups wish to stay within their own. Okay, so stop talking like that, being the only one, and then putting God in the mix, how do you know what God says about mixing the races? It is not in their, (I mean) your bible, lol. You folks will put stuff on God in a minute, and has no proof this is something God approve.

  98. Harvie Harv says:

    Nzingha Shabaka ah you didn't need to go as far as you did to begin with.

    The fact that you said you didn't even read my entire post lets me know you don't look at the full scope of things before you form an opinion. So I have to believe that you do that with many things in life.

    My children can read and hear whatever they want from the outside world. Me as a man and a father will make it a point too have such a presence over my children that my influence from the time I spend with them will overshadow anything they pickup elsewhere. Understand?

    Racism has nothing to do with whether or not I murder my ppl via crack or a man with a pistol..I take total responsibility for my own actions. Period! Im not giving someone else especially a mere man that much power over me or anything I do in my life. If we as a people keep pointing the fingers and crying about things we can't do, or what we think we're owed then we will forever be crippled. SPECIAL FIELD ORDER 15 IS NOT COMING BACK. When our ppl understand that we can let go of some things and move forward.

    We oppress ourselves because its easier to wallow in our own miseries and rally up about it, or argue with anyone that places things in a different/un common perspective about the truth..(this lil conversation is proof of that.) I believe in common sense, not common belief.

    We were enslaved like many other races, we are mistreated like many other races, we carry the weight of certain injustices upon our shoulders and in our communities like many other races do in theirs; But we are the only race that seems to complain instead of moving on the act of change..like many other races have done and continue to do. You are SO right-we must stop this foolishness! Yes blacks caught a crappy deal from the jump, and our own African ancestors took part. Okay, now look at how some things turned out over there versus here. We can't keep whining.

    Working under the radar is not what i do. Everything i do, am doing, and will do comes with the company of Fortitude and gumption. So "I aint hiding."

    Lastly my name is H a r v i e. (I just really appreciate when ppl spell it the correct way.)

  99. says:

    Harvie Harv You take your name that serious, it was two letters misplaced, is that Afurakan? Look you still don't get it. Never mind, I am done.

  100. Harvie Harv says:

    Nzingha Shabaka Yes I do. No its not. And I really don't care if it African or alien Its my damn name. Thanks.

  101. says:

    Nzingha Shabaka Sweety, the Black Man was raped right along with you. Do you think we escaped that? Now, which is worst; A Male being raped by a Man or a Female being raped by a Man? At least the vagina is designed for it. We are not designed for that at all! My posts are for these guys following. I don't expect a single Black female to agree, support or defend my position. I got that! I don't need to name call or besmirch any one either. The truth will do just fine. Truth is.. You claim he raped y'all. So please answer this question for me. When in our history have you ever withheld sex from our en slavers? Many Black females joyfully watch Scandal, many of you love the character Olivia Pope. So if the rape was so horrible. Why are so many Black females not even upset about sexing them today or teaching your daughters not to have sex with him? Black males have really only been able to do this without being lynched for maybe the past 40 to maybe 60 years. Black females have never stopped. Black Males having sex with White Females is like comparing the Stone Age to the Space Age. What Black female has ever been lynched for having sex with a White man? Please provide references. Emmett Till was murdered for allegedly whistling at a White female. How many Black females were murdered for that? What else you got besides this so called rape? I suspect many of you must have enjoyed it back then because you sure enjoy being with him today.

  102. says:

    I really wish guys could see Black females for how they really are. Not this fantasy female that the Church has produced. FYI to you guys. The reason why you don't see that many Black females out on dates with White Men is simple. He don't have to! He just arranges for them to meet him in some Motel or Hotel. If you want to see how Black females treat White men. Go and watch a film called The Words with Zoe Saldana. It's pretty accurate in my opinion. After you watch it, go see A Family that Preys Together by Tyler Perry. You might then get just a glimpse of how well she treats him and any other non black male. If you want a really good understading watch The Feast of All Saints and Black Venus. This is her programming and training. Other non black men know this as well. She sleeps with them all and then produces all these hybrid babies. Let the so called good Black Woman take up that fight if she's serious about it.

  103. Gherkin Rose says:

    Nzingha Shabaka….actually. …i have seen many black women with white men….lol. my three closest friends are black and all dated white men. They looked at the heart and not skin color. One of them ONLY dates white men, soooo….yeah. Let me also say, im not sure if you realized, white people are mixed. Im irish, swedish, german,and Cherokee. My husband is Jewish, German, Swedish, and Turkish. Black people are mixed too. Yes, there are africns but thier are also jamaicans, Haitians, etc. The way you are talking…like dont mix races and everything….its the same logic the KKK has. Are you saying you agree with thier logic?men. My

  104. says:

    Christopher Hall Sorry about that black man. You stay the course, and one day she may evolve to be what you desire, you sound like a good man. She need to appreciate you, for seeing her as your black queen.

  105. Kellz Lab says:

    Don't forget..we were the ones cutting you down from trees and burying you, mourning for you. Our experiences are linked. There is nothing separate about our pain. We share this. Christopher Hall, as far as giving us the world, I say forget this madness we live in now and let's create a new world together. <3

  106. Sundiata Keita says:

  107. Sundiata Keita says:

  108. says:

    Debra Allen Driskell Why shouldn't Black women want the same? After being overlooked and ignored by Black men I noticed I was not dating the men who were approaching me seriously. Thank God I woke up or I'd be like my THREE cousins.LOL! Single, no dating prospects, way over 30+ and still waiting for that BMW to come along.

  109. says:

    It's truly sad that you have been brain washed into thinking that black women are about the money. Since the beginning of slavery – we have been pitched against one another. The sad part is many of us fell for the lies. Examples of women standing by their men during the difficult times is Denzel Washington – Mr. Washington often times talks about how his wife supported him when he was absolutely broke. Martlin L. King – Corretta Scott King stood by him through thick and thin and I understood that some of his writings she helped him write. There are so many more examples if you chose to take a look at them. But go ahead, continue to believe as you do. This is the type of thinking that continues to divide; as well as, defeat the black african american race.

  110. says:

    Black women need to denounce Steinemism at once! After that, then we may be able to get closer. Stop letting that CIA operative man-hater dictate our affairs!!!

  111. Mexicana Advode says:

    Bomani Ajamu are you upset because the black woman havent done anything or because they love jesus; the white man, gee, i'm atheist and black so where do i fit in to love jesus. have not done anything while obeying the law is different from have not done anything yet being a miscreant criminal while making other people's life a living hell and spreading disease.
    i can do better than a film, i have facts and reality not art. go and look up OJ SIMPSON, MONTEL WILLIAM, GARY COLEMAN, TIGER WOODS, DON CORNELIUS, MICHAEL JORDAN, KOBE BRYANT and the list goes on as to what their precious white wife did to them. the black man has a sick and twisted hate for himself so he doesnt want to align with anything that looks like him.
    you really are a stupid KNEEGROW if you think the black woman of 1913 wasnt lynched because she wanted to represent her black village in parliament. how about the national hero in caribbean territories who were executed for fighting for black people and ungrateful black men and as for rape, guess what your ass got rape too and if its a myth that the black women were not rape by white men, then the black men must have loved the ass fucked you all got from your slave masters back then because the 'buck breaking' or 'plantation season' seem to be a best kept secret for the black man.. get the fuck outa here with your basic ignorant ass.

  112. says:

    White women are sent to college to get their MRS. degree and you know what I mean. So for the Black mother telling her Black daughter to find someone on her level is no different. Trust me the a lot of White women deal with black man because they have low self esteem and it make them feel good about themselves because they think that they are improving his life by being with him. So for the Black man, he chooses to bash Black woman so he can rationalize why he is with the White woman so he won't feel guilty. I live in the Pacific NW and grew up with this and have heard all kinds of excuses and reasons why they run to the White woman.

  113. says:

    Sundiata Keita You are so wrong in that aspect. If it wasn't for Black women you Black men would not be where you are today. You have been mistreated and it seriously hurt you but, guess what. So have I and I 'm not going to bash Black men they way you bash Black women. This is what the powers that be want to keep us divided. So to give you some insight hear this. Black man + Black woman = Strenght and power resulting in having strong,smart and beautiful black children and that is what the powers that be is afraid of. There is a saying out there that the the powers that be worst nightmare is an educated Black man. Just look at how Obama is treated. Just think about it and stop letting your wounds overtake you.

  114. Mexicana Advode says:

    aaah wrongo, you should take your own advice and do a statistics because you clearly are uneducated and ignorant to alot of things.most basketball players are married to black women. you are a victim of you own accusations, the media has have you head wrapped in a package to think that there is a ridiculous phenomena of white women walking down the aisle with black men more than black women. go to fb pages and see the amount of BLACK MARRIED COUPLES. when the media wins, ignorance always spread and celebrates bliss.

  115. Mexicana Advode says:

    Christopher Hall then why the hell are you here, you should be happily married with your 2 children, white picket fence and an 8 figure job with your white wife as you finally got rid of all black women who were milking you.

  116. Harvie Harv says:

    Mexicana Advode if you're going to insult someone..make sure its a strong insult.

  117. Mexicana Advode says:

    Harvie Harv you must have interpret that as an insult for you to have regurgitate that comment, however, if its worth any consolation, thats not an insult.

  118. Harvie Harv says:

    Mexicana Advode my previous statement={{sarcasm maybe}}, but also maybe you could break down your statement for me, since I'm clearly not understanding your logic.

  119. Mexicana Advode says:

    Harvie Harv my comment is as clear as daylight. for a man to support inter mixing, it means he is open to do anything as he feels the need for social acceptance and status. how can you feel comfortable in sleeping with your ancestors slave masters children,oh let me guess, your rebuttal would be that was 5 centuries ago and love has no color, as if the white man/woman sees the black man as just another man. i would think if a man fore parents went through so much atrocities, no to mention when they were fighting back so you could be free today, the least to do is build a life that will preserve your bloodline and honor your entire being so that you can be seen as equal and not just a receptacle for rejects from every race or a plantation cabin bull.

  120. Rosemary Barros Ashcroft says:

    Maybe it's me but I didn't hear much on interracial dating in that piece. She touched on her view of life in America for people of color. Most of which, I agree. We need to have open dialog and respect for each other's opinion.

  121. says:

    Mexicana Advode first, what I was actually trying to say was shut up in a nice way-as I'm finished with this whole thing. It was clear you wanted to argue, I didn't actually care for a response.

    second leave this shit alone. I gave my opinion, and you don't like it. Thats fine. I'm getting a little tired of this silly argument. Your'e a grown women/man/Tranny, or whatever you are. Not learning from the past is worst than living in it. People like you think we should turn the tables around and flip slavery over onto white folks. So that would make us what? Better or worst? Because we KNOW what thats like already so why would we of all races do it to others?

    Slaves use to pray so that we(the future) wouldn't be slaves as they were. They prayed and hoped for freedom….thats meant freedom to have sex with anybody they wanted without inhibition amongst everything else. It was the principality of NOT being free that they fell victim too. This aint about no damned bloodline. You read the shit you type??? This aint the damn Da Vinci code.

    Third I don't recall saying I personally sleep with or would sleep with a woman not of color [you ASSumed that.]

    Fourth i don't care for misplaced anger when I get mad it will be the right time to be angry. I'm not walking around all day, and every day of my life complaining about the "sins of massa and what he does in his house." You do know africans had sex with Europeans before slavery, as well as arabic women. If you want to be mad. Be mad. IM cool.

    Lastly, I don't rebuttal. Now….leave this alone.

  122. says:

    being materialistic is not racial thing, everybody wants their children to marry someone, they think can take care of them, from a financial point of view. You said that black women are materialistic, as opposed to women of other races, truly, how many white women marry poor black men? Go marry your nonmaterialistic non black woman, as penniless as you please, let's how long that marriage will last. I think you are old enough to know that the grass is not always greener on the other side. May be you are talking from experience, but you haven't dated all black westernized women, and neither have you dated your non-materialistic other women, because if you had you will be too busy being happy with her instead of spreading your certifiable claims.

  123. Terrel New England Butler says:

    I honestly agree with Sundiata Keita and Nik Grant, i dont see how Sundiata Keita are distorted view points, those statements are very valid, however i do agree with also Nik Grant every woman wants a provider, there has to be a middle lane somewhere, i think what Sundiata Keita said is a fact and does not want to be admitted!

  124. Travis DeBlaw says:

    Jill Scott has always sparked my heart. She is my idea of a pure and culturally rich black goddess. I can listen to her speak all day and night because she got depth and plenty of intellect. Not none of this real house wives of Atlanta bull crap that black women gravitate towards. Jill Scott is the supreme definition of black beauty. Give me my coretta scott kings, my Rosa parks, my Shirley Chisholm, my betty shabazz, my Angela Bassett, my phylisha Rashad Allen, my Kerry Washington (not the Olivia pope type), my gabby Douglass, and a host of other culturally aware black women around me and watch how this country bow down to us.

  125. says:

    I understand her feelings, but ultimately the relationship between every man and every woman is singular!

  126. Mexicana Advode says:

    Harvie Harvthis is the typical nigga man who gets into a bitch mode whenever he gets cornered. grow up if you are a boy, girl, tranny or transgender as i'm unable to tell the difference. you are the type of nigga that is willing to take an ass fuck from white women just to be accepted by your slave master. just when did i state that reverse slavery should be the paramount agenda and even if i did, how does that affect the price of tea in china or barley in ethiopia. are you naturally stupid or is your ugly ass face nagging your sense of reasoning. when did freedom meant to have sex with anybody you dumb fucktard, with freedom comes specific obligations, you know, the fine prints that the black man refuse to read as his head is too far up white man and white woman's ass to take a timeout from stupidity, thats why they invented aids to keep the black man out but its not working fast enough so to this day, more prisons are being constructed which i support, as i'm tired of watching the news and see your monkey as committing rape, robbery and abuse.

  127. Bobby Bynam Jr. says:

    Let me offer this if I may….from the time our people set foot on this continent. Our identities, culture, ideals and ultimately humanity have been systematically stripped away for capital gain. Under this system, which lasted for hundreds of years, and the practices that were the hallmark of said system were effective in leaving the impression of countless series of lasting cycles that resonate in our "culture" We are all privy to the obvious nature of slavery, Jim Crow, Drug epidemic, etc and its lasting affect on our psyches as it pertains to racism, but I don't think that we have explored the "why" we behave toward each other deep enough and I think that is what sister Scott is addressing. The collective view of ourselves and each other was subliminally embedded into our subconscious through the messages delivered to us by the established culture of AmeriKa. Bottom line black love and relationships have been dictated to us and s significant number of us have bought into the message that we are no good for each other for the simple fact that it is easy to control people if you can convince the heads of the people that they do not need each other hence "I don't need no nigga" , "I can do bad by myself" b@#tches and S@$t but hoes and tricks, baby daddies and mommas become the norm and mothers and fathers become a fantasy, because the best way to destroy the black family or any family for that matter is by convincing the man that he doesn't need his woman and vice versa. Why? capital gain…prisons are privatized and the number of incarcerated blacks is fast approaching the number of enslaved africans of old. Educate and Love

  128. Bobby Bynam Jr. says:

    When a people has been in bondage for longer than they have been free, historically that people are subject to systematic manipulation because they are vulnerable. We are vulnerable because we have been stripped of our identity and in our humanity we struggle to find oursleves and with no sense of direction we assimilate into whatever appeals to us. Right now it is fashionable to hate each other and until we first take responsibility for ourselves and then be responsible for each other, as opposed to looking to white people for solutions to black problems, we will never be able to repair the damage of the past which is the "why" we have issues like the one sister Scott is addressing. Learn to think and you will be free…and once you are freed of mental slavery then it is your responsibility to free the mind of another. If you are to bitter to fight then you need to back out of the battle for our collective souls and try not to do any damage to the cause…For example if you have ever started a statement with the sentiment "All Black Men do…., All black Women are… then the message is for you. Educate yourselves so that we will have the tools needed to save our children.

  129. Mexicana Advode says:

    Harvie Harv oh you have that WE SICK BOSS syndrome..lmao

  130. says:

    Its hard on the black woman when she sees a successful black man dating a white woman.

  131. says:

    Get use to it ♥ Jill Scott ♥ we date both white and black women.

  132. says:

    Nik Grant No he doesn't the facts are true watch hidden colors all of them they will school you to the facts and to the truth of the black history of bitterness and the whole black woman negating the black man.

  133. says:

    it's in london too

  134. says:

    So if there were no love of any race, then Obama would not have been born. When I hear this stuff, I continue to see how racist many are still in 2014. You can own you culture and date and marry who you like! I've never had any issues men or women, black or white, USA or European or Japanese for that matter. It's sad to hear this… But the debate is a good thing!

  135. says:

    If you think that a "successful Black man dating a White woman" is him giving up on Black women… you are sadly mistaken… it is quite literally the reverse… You are giving up on him… in the words of Andre3000 "Now question is every nigga with dreads for the cause?
    Is every nigga with golds for the fall? Naw
    So don't get caught in appearance" #Aquemeni

  136. says:

    Blasphemy Gluttony i'm inclined to agree with you because i love black women. on the other hand white women and their feminist agenda continues to profoundly influence the black community in negative ways they still don't fully understand, which is what sundiata seems to be saying. in other words, my beautiful black queen sisters that i remember from my youth are now inevitably adopting the twerking, materialistic, career over family, blue collar brothas ain't good enough, better a white man than no man mentality that the illuminati media has been planning for them since 1776.

  137. says:

    I love jill so I have nothing negative to say about her. But I do think the concept of “colorblind love” is not only naïve, but irrational. First of all anyone that claims to be colorblind is a liar and a fool – unless you are legally BLIND, everyone can see the phenotypes of human beings are different. I have personal knowledge of the racial dynamics of “mixed unions” and I’m telling you now that as long as the racial categories exist in amerikkka, and one person’s value is esteemed to be of higher value than their “partner” then equality is simply an illusion to be pursued but NEVER ATTAINED. No one can truly love another person when they feel inferior and continue to be looked upon as “a nigger bed wench,” or “a mandingo stud nigger dick” or some other sexual commodity. That ain’t love, it’s LUST.

  138. says:

    I still love you jill but there’s a few things that are imperative for all black women to understand. Black women are being left alone mainly because black women are going to college and black men are going to PRISON. That ain’t no accident. And the brothas who will stay true often discover that many of our sisters are so infected by jezebelic white feminism that their values have become synonymous with that of their former slavemasters. So the “quiet pain” she describes is FELT BY BOTH SIDES. Yes ignorant brothas still think a white woman will provide them with more “prestige” than the ones who nurtured and cared for them when they didn’t have a pot to piss in, but black women that think a white boy can provide them with more financial security and marry for money are the same types of oreo niggroes and negropeans that nobody wants anyway. They choose a “race” that doesn’t choose them! So unfortunately what jill is saying is impossible. She doesn’t “feel” that way in eurape because she’s not eurapean, and while eurape may have successfully “brushed away” their crimes against humanity, amerikkka CONTINUES to carry on the same imperialistic racially motivated agenda with impunity. You cannot love and hold on to your “culture” when it’s constantly under attack and being categorized as inferior based on RACIAL assumptions, and expect any healing to take place. Talking might make you feel better for the moment but healing is nowhere in sight.

  139. says:

    Because if you live in amerikkka you have no choice. RACE IS ASSIGNED TO YOU FROM BIRTH, and EVERYTHING in american culture is centered around this MYTH because Christian leaders fail to teach its origins and address the issue politically. Therefore whites maintain the dominant culture and blacks remain socially and politically inferior citizens. Precisely the reason why Sunday mornings between 12 and 1 pm remains the most segregated hour in America. Paula’s response holds the answer to your question. WE ARE NOT CAPABLE OF AGAPE LOVE as human beings. Human love will always be CONDITIONAL. At least on this side of heaven.

  140. says:

    Nzingha Shabaka That is soooooooooo deeeeeeeeppppp!!!! Yaaaaassssssssss! #OMG

  141. says:

    100%

  142. says:

    I Agree With Sister I'm Pro Black Love I'm Totally Against Interracial Love.

  143. says:

    I do not agree! I believe love has no color and you need to be with whoever will raise you up and understands you! Its your place to keep the culture in your children whether or not they are of a mixed race or a solid race! Its sad to say but every city is different in regards to blacks.

  144. says:

    I do not agree! I believe love has no color and you need to be with whoever will raise you up and understands you! Its your place to keep the culture in your children whether or not they are of a mixed race or a solid race! Its sad to say but every city is different in regards to blacks.

  145. says:

    El RoJo Johnson Bullshit !! So ur saying blacks stay with black white with white etc ? I am half white half black and proud to be,People are people tats it if a black man does not choose a black woman that is his damn taste what if he likes asian or hispanic …….get with the program

  146. says:

    El RoJo Johnson Bullshit !! So ur saying blacks stay with black white with white etc ? I am half white half black and proud to be,People are people tats it if a black man does not choose a black woman that is his damn taste what if he likes asian or hispanic …….get with the program

  147. says:

    Not true…i am Half White/Black and i live back and forth Los Angeles and Europe and trust me there are very few people that pay attention to blacks with whites or asian ,the people who get it bad in europe are turkish,morrocan

  148. says:

    Not true…i am Half White/Black and i live back and forth Los Angeles and Europe and trust me there are very few people that pay attention to blacks with whites or asian ,the people who get it bad in europe are turkish,morrocan

  149. says:

    I love everybody, don't matter what happened in the past if you do nothing to change that. God doesn't take one race over the other cause its only color. its on the inside, us as a people need to do better and try to just be a transcender. I see a lot of arguing going on right now with our people and that's what's wrong, just LOVE no matter what. in that case I need to kick everybody that ain't black out my family which ain't happening cause its my FAMILY and my Culture, and not to mention the world in itself just has ignorant, not so smart, demonic people who would do anything to see you fall and fail. I think people need to just love who they love and don't worry about what others think and say, They are not GOD and they can only do what we do and that's live by his rules and not make them for themselves. LOVE my people! LOVE YALL! be beautiful no matter who you are! stay blessed Fam "ONE".

  150. says:

    I love everybody, don't matter what happened in the past if you do nothing to change that. God doesn't take one race over the other cause its only color. its on the inside, us as a people need to do better and try to just be a transcender. I see a lot of arguing going on right now with our people and that's what's wrong, just LOVE no matter what. in that case I need to kick everybody that ain't black out my family which ain't happening cause its my FAMILY and my Culture, and not to mention the world in itself just has ignorant, not so smart, demonic people who would do anything to see you fall and fail. I think people need to just love who they love and don't worry about what others think and say, They are not GOD and they can only do what we do and that's live by his rules and not make them for themselves. LOVE my people! LOVE YALL! be beautiful no matter who you are! stay blessed Fam "ONE".

  151. says:

    Interesting.

  152. says:

    Racism is extremely critical to American not being able to experience peace in away that we have complete control of. Each of us a have a duty to be respectful and demonstrate love for humanity. And, we must understand that our purpose for living here on earth is divine more so than our moral expectation. We are allowing some of the oldest sins of yesterday to yet destroy us today; in a time where we claim to be more civilize and educationally incline to understanding the operation of the earth. But, yet lacking the common sense to accept God's most brilliant ways to define beauty by using colors. Everything God has created, from the shy to the core of the earth has color, and we are the only creation, and God's most intelligent species that shows a problem with what He has done in His creation of His image; that man processes. Our ability to create life with other humans concretes the issues on interracial commingling. Love is unconditional, but it's just as essential to embrace your ethnicity and culture to ensure the existence in which you come. But, your reason to date or marry outside your race should strictly be for love and nothing else, but love. Unfortunately people engages for all different reason, just as we hate for different reason; and this is why there is such a disconnection, because most of us know that more people do thing for self preservation oppose to doing things for the love of humanity.

  153. says:

    I have one question that has been plaguing me have anyone seen or know of a rich white woman marrying or dating a poor brother. If so I would like to know.

  154. says:

    I have one question that has been plaguing me have anyone seen or know of a rich white woman marrying or dating a poor brother. If so I would like to know.

  155. says:

    It's strange that mainly large or ratchet looking black women have opinions like this, yet on the other side, you have SO many super jet black women who make it in the business world who are completely anti-dating another black person. I didn't hear here mentioning that aspect. Thing is, I date whomever comes along that I get along with. If I happen to live somewhere that has 80% whites, then chances are, it's going to be a white girl. I'm not going to wait until a black chick comes along and push aside any white prospect. Same as in attraction…if the town is filled with huge, hood rat black women as the majority, I'm not going to go for that either. If she's Hispanic, white, Chinese, whatever, and I'm not attracted, then there's no dating. Period. People think too hard on this sometimes.

  156. says:

    It's strange that mainly large or ratchet looking black women have opinions like this, yet on the other side, you have SO many super jet black women who make it in the business world who are completely anti-dating another black person. I didn't hear here mentioning that aspect. Thing is, I date whomever comes along that I get along with. If I happen to live somewhere that has 80% whites, then chances are, it's going to be a white girl. I'm not going to wait until a black chick comes along and push aside any white prospect. Same as in attraction…if the town is filled with huge, hood rat black women as the majority, I'm not going to go for that either. If she's Hispanic, white, Chinese, whatever, and I'm not attracted, then there's no dating. Period. People think too hard on this sometimes.

  157. says:

    I missed it too, and some folks on here are having full discussion about the headline. Is everybody talking about the same video?

  158. says:

    I missed it too, and some folks on here are having full discussion about the headline. Is everybody talking about the same video?

  159. says:

    Preach Jill we do need an open dialogue instead of keeping silent & being resentful

  160. says:

    That discussion is in the article published in Essence Magazine March 2010 copy.

  161. says:

    My thoughts are, black women worked in mansions for whites and they stuck by the black man. Now you see an unbelievable number of black men with millions putting a white woman in their mansion. I get disheartened because I'm saying that a black women should be the one living in that mansion. Traders comes to mind.

  162. says:

    mind games, reverse psychology ? . . race has nothing to do with that. I'm 'white' and I do not consider myself a MASTER of either? I see one color we all share BLUE as in the PLANET we ALL inhabit. . . . "latest twist, to call you a racist" . . . And THAT is exclusive to 'WHITE' folks ? . . you got sum 'splainin' Lucy . . .

  163. says:

    Explain to me how the homeland AFRICA had NOTHING to do with the slave trade. It's all wrong . . . SLAVERY is BULLSHIT no matter how you COLOR it or CUT it . . .

  164. says:

    Interesting! In Europe, Blacks are not called blacks #1 ( no color stereo type), they are Africans and are very fun loving classy well dressed and well spoken people who speak beautifully in any language they converse in! Now, American Blacks do too because they usually are of the upper class ( poor blacks on welfare do not travel to Europe…duh!). Now, you take that Black American from the poor Harlem area to Europe- he's going to have a problem with everyone! I think Americans of all colors have a problem with the foul speaking, pants off the butt, tattooed, gang dressed, bad attitude, 5 mouthy kids in tow, fat and on welfare English challenged, high school drop out Black person! In Africa and Europe, education is a must and speaking one or more languages MUST be the first thing in life to conquer! Now, look at the Blacks here! We all respect the well dressed, educated, well spoken Blacks we see on TV, in the White House, and in colleges and behind the counter at Starbucks. The lowrider, baggy pants, baseball hat off to the side with a paper bag with MD 50-50 and pants below the butt DOES NOT COMMAND RESPECT! WHO makes these stereotypes? Slavery is primarily over in the United States ( not completely sadly- and now they are no longer Black but Asian). So, the Black community needs to move on , quit disrespecting yourselves, quit committing crimes, quit taking drugs, quit using guns, quit raping women, quit BEATING ANYBODY but women is a definite NO NO! THAT is why after Martin Luther King woke up all the races of America to the plight of Black Americans. The stupid white racists that are stuck in their uneducated past will die soon and the young won't know their racism. But, Black people are giving the world a violent , criminal face… a stereotype that no other modern industrial countries have albeit the Black Muslims are trying real hard to stereotype themselves in a negative way to–> violent and deadly! Who… likes those kind of people, NOBODY! That is why we need to quit starting wars all over the planet. America is the biggest terrorist on the planet! We make and sell weapons to BOTH sides… because it's all about money!

  165. says:

    Blacks in America are still in slavery. The literal shackles and chains are no longer visible, but still very much entrenched on the black psyche of black people, through the economic, political, and sociological disparities of this racist/white supremacist nation. Even before the sixties, so-called civil rights movement, blacks artists and entertainers weren't allowed to practice their craft in America, and when allowed it was under the most despicable of conditions and this is why, even back then black artists preferred, London, and other places overseas, because they were treated with respect, and their conditions of performing wasn't laced with, entering back doors and not allowed to stay in white hotels…black entertainers were treated the same as white entertainers overseas…..so I don't blame.them for going overseas where they're going to be treated like a human being and not like some slave, for whiteys entertainment only, please people!!! White racist America wants everyone to assimilate into their culture and their ideology….its seems to me that they are threatened by other cultures and those who love and hold on to who they are. Blacks are not giving the world a violent criminal face!! the white racists propaganda did that hundred of years ago and still doing it through the media. This propaganda is done now for the exact same reasons it was done in the pass…to justify the mistreatment and subjugation of black peoples. What better way to get the masses to help in the depredation and alienation of a race of peoples, then through wide spread propaganda through the media. Y'all better wake up!!!

  166. says:

    I would have to disagree…the place that she is coming from is the fact that in the black community there is a colorist issue and a loyalty issue…it always seems when a black man becomes successful they always have a really fair-skinned wife or a wife of a different race..and many of times it just doesn't happen unintentional…how many black successful men in entertainment do you see parading around with a brown – skinned,let alone darkskinned woman….and so far as a "jet black successful woman" dating outside her race it's because 9 times out of 10 she is never looked at by the black men of her caliber….I have seen it and I have had said to my face by black men wanting disgracing black women and uplifting and desiring women other races…no one is saying that it is wrong to date outside your race or black women are have a problem with it but most of the time it is the black woman who tends to be the woman there through the struggle, but someone of another race when the success comes….and true enough there are some black women who think like that but the ratio to black men who do is minimal….

  167. says:

    When is this video from? It says her fifth album is due to come out "summer 2010" so if this interview is four years old its hardly fair to bill it as current news. People please be more critical of the 'news' you are consuming.

  168. says:

    Tony Hicks you're who we call the "housecracker". You keep your head down and hope that black folks don't notice you. In your mind you are hoping that whites stay in power be it, financial, government, economically. You're content with the mind games and reverse psychology methods of your hierarchy because it keeps blacks in place. Did you vote for Obama because he was the best candidate, because he was black or because he was a democrat? There is no right or wrong answer; however, how you answer says a lot about your views and who you are as a person…maybe you didn't vote at all. In any case it's time to stop hiding behind the "it wasn't me" response and like some of your white counterparts stand up and own it and declare "no more"! Black men are brain washed … simple ignorant, beat down and pitiful black men. Anyone that uses the statement "I don't see color or I see only one color" is a liar unless you are blind. You see the color and refuse to acknowledge it in lieu of getting to know a person…that's fine. I see color and I dislike black men because of it. I'm being judged and treated poorly by my own people that's how bad the mind games are. Walk in someone else shoes for a day, get a different perspective.

  169. says:

    I've always dated whomever I liked so, it never bothered me seeing someone else doing the same.

  170. says:

    Hey stupid. The black race doesn't give itself a violent, criminal face, the media does. For every O.J. there's a Robert Blake. For every Kobe Bryant there's a Ben Rothlisberger. For every Michael Jackson there's the entire Catholic church. Ray Rice hits his future wife, people go beserk, Google Kurt Busch, NASCAR. Bet you didn't even know about this. Ray Rice got married to his victim; Kurt Busch's victim got restraining order for not just her but her son. Crickets. Blade runner from South Africa shoots and kills his wife; justification? South Africa is a violent country filled with niggers, honest mistake. Google former Green Bay Packer Mark Chumura and babysitter. Brett Favre sends a pic of his junk to a woman who didn't want it, now he's doing commericals for, of all things, the NO – NO? That's like O.J. doing Ginsu knife commercials. Marv Albert assaults a woman, while wearing women's undergarmets, still doing NBA games. Teddy Pendergrast gets caught with a crossdresser, career over. And what Asian slaves are you referring to? White people don't do drugs? No white guys sag? No white guys have tats?
    White boys don't shoot up schools?
    Theaters?
    Blow up buildings where kids are at day care?
    I guess what Cliven Bundy did was cool, armed revolt against the federal government. But not Ferguson Mo., right. I mean, the guy owed the feds millions of $$$. Let the people of Oakland do that and see if the whole country goes beserk.

  171. says:

    I am so tired of black women having this debate. White women and Asian women have issues with White men dating and marrying non white woman. Why is that topic never discussed. Frankly, we do not all have the "pinch"!

  172. says:

    They are called Africans because most of them or their anchesters or from Africa or the Carribean. The people of Afruca don't call themselves black either. They are Africans. So you point is ? Everything you just said can apply to the white race. What makes you think you got a pass?

  173. says:

    Etheleen Lawrence Just get a job and be a productive member of society and stop with all of the excuses about the white man keeping you down! The only thing in my life that was giving to me was the color of my skin, everything else I earned! And I had fun doing it in the face of the doubters! I could have sat back and did nothing and talked about how the world hated me because I was born short but I worked instead of blaming the people that are biased to us short people!

  174. says:

    You guys are nothing but a bunch of racists! You actually get mad about a black man falling in love with a woman of another color??? And then you say god will make him pay!?!? What kind of god have you made up?

  175. says:

    Greg Burroughs: You're evidently a white short guy, with a short man complex. And if you are white, you are the white privileged in this racist white supremacist nation-state. Also, it you're white you benefit from racism. Now if you're black ….you are cut from the same cloth as Charles Barkley. Check out Tim Wise on you tube, and get an awakening….little fellow.

  176. says:

    Dennis Peterson: Are you missing a circuit, or dyslexic. I stated that the media propaganda in the tool used to the masses, to the criminalizing of black peoples. If you need help in comprehension you should get it and fast…instead of calling people stupid.

  177. says:

    Gina Conton You just made a hell of a lot of assumptions based on so few words. It seems you're a tad biased, and full of a lot of prejudice.

  178. says:

    Farntella Graham…..I think these comments are dumb, and I'm just not going to candy coat things. I am white. I dont need to apologize to anyone or "own" anything that happened before I was born (1987) I have done NOTHING wrong. I shouldnt have to deal with reversed racism on a regular basis because of….well the color of my skin. (and if that term bothers you, you should ask yourself why) I went to a "mixed" school, played with black friends, dated and worked alongside of black individuals…..explain to me why I need to apologize for being white again? Because I wasnt treated any differently in my life for being white. SO….sorry, not sorry. I dont need to own something I didnt do. Its like that Minor Threat song…..guilty of being white

  179. says:

    Yes I know of such a case. Hari Rhodes, poor black actor, married wealthy white woman. She financed his career. Hari stared in Daktari.

  180. says:

    Clarification. I didn't watch the vid before I commented but I commented on the headline of interracial dating (dating can lead to marriage) stating I get disheartened seeing black men with millions putting white women in mansions instead of looking at their own and putting (for the lack of a better word) a black women in that mansion (bless a black woman to live good). They cleaned them and stood by your side, now let them live in (own) them. P.S. Jake McCoy, Jill did mention about how it can hurt and that those black women just have to deal with black men marrying white women.

  181. says:

    Lastly, count the athletes and entertainers, all doing very well, I't appears 75-80% of them are sharing their millions with a caucasian female. Just saw during the Super Bowl, Johnny Legend, and who is dancing, his white wife. It seems rich and mega rich black men forget that black woman exist. Unfair to them.

  182. says:

    I disagree with her. I personally feel that she's full of crap now. I guarantee if anyone does genetic Testing You will find out that you're just not White or African American.

  183. says:

    Yes I agree with her

  184. says:

    Tony Hicks We are different species of humans. We do not think the same. it has gotten to the places now, where I no longer see people who look like me represented as a Black person. the mixed race is not the new Black. I will never accept them as Black like me and people who look like me. they are not going to replace me because they are not Black, they are mixed race.

  185. says:

    Ameen

  186. says:

    An elderly woman once told me that black women used to brag on black man and the great things they would do when they finally "make it" in this society but was flabbergasted when they began to turn their back on black women.

  187. says:

    First of all I wasn't even referring to you but rather Gil Cottrel. If you read what I wrote you would realize none of it was in response to anything you said. Apparently your ego is bigger than YOUR comprehension.

  188. says:

    Gherkin Rose I have had more important white people than you apologize to me directly for the behavior of their peoples and the mistreatment of my people. you mean nothing to me.

  189. says:

    Dennis Peterson, while I get your points that were well made, why throw OJ up in there? He was found NOT GUILTY. Yet he is still spoken of as an abusive woman beater and murderer. He went through hell with that ordeal. She was the mother of his kids. He lost someone too. Being a black man would you still want to be referred to in such a negative light if you'd been acquitted?

  190. says:

    Karen Henderson Meachem our people were warned that our enemies would come after us via their women.

  191. says:

    bitch, did you get it all out? you managed to diss us with every conceivable stereotype you can think of, at the same time you give us dishonest compliments.. U R what you R: a forked-tongue devil whose genes we do not want in our pool. one thing I will say, them ass-kissing africans in europe will be called out for the lukewarm traitors that they are. the days of hiding are done.

  192. says:

    don't let the devil make you believe that you are like him. We are nothing like him. We are humans and they are not. they are the premier perveyor of murder, theft and destruction on this planet. Black people are not. do not let them psych you. stay focused and understand who are the real problem on this earth. they know it and so do the masses. they want to erase us and take our identity. as rahel dolezil.

  193. says:

    Ce GotRocks your response means you absolutely do not get my point. The original poster stated American Blacks give themselves a negative image. My point was Robert Blake did the same thing, was acquited and no one talks anything about it. Of course I would not want to be referred to negatively. Read what I said again then get back to me.

  194. says:

    No one has a bigger problem with interracial marriage then black american people and white nationalists. Literally everyone else doesn't give a crap. White women and Asian women feel that they can get other men if white men aren't with them. Black women ( and really only in America because overseas you don't hear this crap) feel that they can only be with black men. Therefore if you limit yourself to one group in a multicultural society you have a much higher chance of being single

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